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Your spouse may experience work stress or problems with other relationships that can lead to changes in attitude. When you see these signs consider other causes, as well as the potential for infidelity.
Changes in Your Sex Life
It is not uncommon for there to be fluctuations in the frequency of sex in your marriage. But these signs may indicate the possibility of an affair.
There is considerably less intimacy or connection in your relationship.
Your sex life is practically non-existent.
There are lots of new things introduced in sex that were never before.
You learn that you have an STD and you have not strayed.
Sudden Change in Habits
Your partner may change his or her habits for a variety of reasons. And healthy habit changes are usually a positive thing. But certain habit changes may be cause for concern
The words “I love you” are not spoken by your spouse any longer.
You can’t even get your mate to fight with you.
You can’t get your spouse to communicate with you (stonewalling).
Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.
Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.
Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer, or there is a sudden interest in appearance.
Your spouse picks up a new hobby that requires a few hours of commitment per day. When you show interest in their new hobby, their answer seems vague or they brush you off.
Your mate is working longer and longer hours at work.
Your spouse’s wandering eye seems out of control.
Your spouse exhibits signs of low self-esteem.
You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about him or herself.
Your spouse is more negative than before.
Your spouse becomes more critical of you.
Your spouse seems to be picking fights more often.
Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.
When you ask for reassurance about cheating, you do not feel satisfied with the response.
Lying and Avoidance
Dishonesty in a marriage is a red flag. These avoidance strategies may indicate that your spouse may be cheating.
You feel as if you are being avoided.
He/she doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.
You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.
Your spouse seems more secretive.
Your partner abandons religious faith.
When your spouse shows apathy or lack of interest in things that they used to love, communicate with them to see if there is another reason for the change in engagement. But if you also suspect infidelity these changes may be further indication of an affair.
Your spouse seems bored with you, a job, your children, hobbies, or even life in general.
Your spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.
Your spouse doesn’t show any jealousy about you, no matter what you say.
Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.
Almost all marriages undergo some kind of financial stress at one time or another. But you may want to investigate certain money issues when you notice them in your marriage.
You notice charges on credit card statements that don’t make sense.
Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.
Your spouse stops planning for large purchases (such as a trip, buying a house, starting a renovation, etc.)
A Change in Technology Use
Infidelity is often revealed online, in text messages, or phone messages. These tech changes may warrant concern.
You notice cloud sharing has suddenly been switched off on your devices.
Your spouse stops using shared devices altogether.
Your spouse reduces their use of social media.
Your partner clears the browser history on the home computer.
Your spouse’s fitness tracker shows exercise at odd times and hours.
Again, what may be a warning sign in one relationship may be nothing to be concerned about in another relationship. In fact, most signs of infidelity are quite subtle. It is only when the lies and stories stop adding up that the cheating usually comes to light.
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